Honestly, when I hear about people being pressured by their families to get married it sounds strange to me because I have not for once experienced such a thing...good or bad? I really do not know. For those that are going through family pressures I think some basic things would help you deal with such issues.
1. Be independent- now independence here does not mean abandoning your parents or other members of your family, NO! It means do your own stuff. During service year I heard of ladies saying after service they are moving back to their parent's house and most are moving back to do nothing. That, my friends is not the way to go. Pursue your goals and ideas, land that job, be financially independent, move out and learn to live on your own. With time they will learn to trust you and respect your choices. Be Independent!
2. Be positive- don't let negativity get to you, ignore side comments because you are wonderfully made, hand crafted by God himself so you don't have problems and you aren't in competition with anyone. When the time is right you will settle down with your better half.
3. Be true to yourself- this is a step further from being positive, are you of age? Yes, are you getting older?yes yes, do you need a husband? Yes yes yes! God did not create us to be alone even the bible says none shall lack her mate... and if your argument is - maybe not everyone is destined to marry, errmm... Sorry sister if you were in that category you will know by now because God will tell you himself...Pls be true to yourself.
And Oh for crying out loud! Don't say you are praying for two years, give oga or madam a chance. When your family sees that you are in a serious relationship pressures will die a natural death...
Let's be practical.
Cheers!
Osekita K.
Be true to yourself biko, ask yourself, are you really ready for marriage?
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