WHY DO I WANT TO GET MARRIED?
If
you asked me this question just four (4) months ago, you would have gotten the
most negative response ever possible, full of bile, bitterness and complete
lack of enthusiasm. I was never the girl who sat to dream of a wedding or a
home with a husband and wife…. somehow my daydreaming always stopped at the
point where I fall in love with the guy nonetheless even if we break up it wouldn’t
count because I’m a self-sufficient independent lady doing what matters most to
her.
I
would look at married women and feel so much pity for them, when I go for
weddings I could very vividly see the chains the couple decided to wear on
their necks by themselves, I just could never understand it. Why would you walk
into a trap with your own very legs?
All
the marriage stories always turned out to be woe stories, yea sure they could
be happy for a while but then the woman has 3 kids and gets fat and bitter and
loses herself. Or the husband switches to become some complete cheating stranger
or the most familiar scenario which most of us can relate to cause most of our
parents belong to this category is - there isn’t hatred in the home, but it’s
just a dull usual mummy - daddy-house-mates-coming-together-to-raise-kids
arrangement…….. So why is everyone still pushing to go into it?
I
knew all the wrong reasons, but I had a problem finding the right reasons. On
one occasion, I was having a conversation with my mum and I told her point
blank, “just condition your mind and not wait for this marriage thing to
happen, cause for me, if I do not have a very obvious concrete reason to go
into it, I most definitely won’t”. But then again I began asking lots of
questions, in my spirit I knew there was a missing link, there was something I
was not getting.
Since
Jesus loves me, yea He is my friend and my original Guy and because I told Him
I don’t ever want to miss a chance at dealing with and embarrassing the devil
with my life, He showed me something, very huge obvious reasons why I should get
married.
He
prepared a course work of 14 books to read before June 2017 and while reading
one of the books written by Bishop Oyedepo he mentioned in passing, how after
witnessing a bad marriage in his neighborhood he decided he did not need
marriage but when he grew up, he began asking questions. And then it occurred
to me, I am not strange! I am at the question asking stage, meaning I’m close
to getting my answers and deliverance!
God
said to me, when there is something you are confused about, look at your manual
– The Bible, and not what you see around you, as what you see around you can be
very misleading plus you might get the whole picture wrong.
Now
My Manual –The Bible has begun giving me the right picture of what a marriage
should be, I’m grateful that I can share the little I know for now as I am
still on my course.
WHY
DO I WANT TO GET MARRIED?
a)
God
created the marriage institution his very own self.
God
looked at Adam and said “it is not good that man should be alone” and then he
created Eve a help meet for Adam. By instituting marriage he created a way to
make life better and not worse for man. God is love, he wouldn’t create
something bad.
b)
You
know how God loves us so much that he sent his only begotten son to die for us?
Yes! Okay! When God refers to us and Him in so many instances He uses
“marriage” as the best way to explain His relationship with us. This means
marriage is most definitely not something that is supposed to bring hurt. God knows what he
created marriage to be, if you want to know it too, you’ve got to check out his
word on it. Revelation 19: 7-9, Isaiah 62:3-5, Hosea 2:14-17, Jeremiah 3:14, Hosea 2:19.
c)
Two
are better than one because, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
i)
they
have a good return for their labor;
ii)
if
either of them falls down, one can help the other up, pity anyone who falls and
has no one to help them up;
iii)
if
two lie down together, they will keep warm;
iv)
though
one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves;
v)
a
cord of three strands is not quickly broken – God, Man and Wife.
d)
If
done right, it is terror to the kingdom of the devil. Imagine homes where
spouses know what God created marriage to be, raising well rounded, confident,
intelligent, God fearing children with a full understanding of love and
purpose, this would most definitely wreak havoc on the devil who is constantly
looking for anywhere we lack knowledge to use against us. In this types of
homes, he’d rarely get the opportunity. This will devastate him.
e)
When
you go into marriage the way God who created it wants it, you gain great evil-proof companionship, love, security, safety, minimized mistakes and hurts. A
way to always solve issues, continuous all round growth and strength. Ephesians
5:21-33.
f)
Someone
to share everything with for the long haul, happiness, support, sadness. You
know how the Bible says Jesus is the bridegroom and the church the bride? In
the Bible Jesus shared everything with us…. love (at the wedding of Canna),
sadness (at the tomb of Lazarus), food (when he fed the 5000), joy(playing with
the little kids)…..and he is our bridegroom! So a marriage should be too.
g)
To
enjoy loving someone and someone loving you back. The Bible defines Love in 1
Corinthians 13:4-8a, imagine a marriage that operates with this type of love!
h)
That
is our best reward on this side of eternity, a great marriage with the spouse
you love. According to Solomon, after all your toilsome labor on earth, we are
admonished by Solomon to enjoy marriage. Ecclesiates
9:9
i)
A
good avenue to glorify God as purpose and destiny will be fulfilled.
j)
Bonus:
it will an opportunity for me to glorify God and just plain make the devil
useless, I enjoy such opportunities, I will not miss out on this.
In
summary, for now, I want to get married because I’m sure of the person who created
it, it will give me joy when I do it his way, I will have love, companionship
and great children, pursue and achieve more results and also piss the devil
off!!
Win-Win situation!!
EJURA
