Why do I want to get Married?
Hmmm...!
This question is sooo timely for someone like me. People who know me
well will tell you how I've always loved weddings. If I had my way, I'll
attend all the weddings of people I know. It has helped me to always
daydream of my own wedding - my wedding gown, the colors of the day,the
dress styles of my train, the wedding cake etc. But then it struck me
"hope you know marriage is more than just the wedding day?". If only the
love, care and romance that is at its peak on the wedding day/night
could last through the marriage, then marriage would just be alluring.
But nay, there is more to marriages than we see these days.
When children
come, personalities change or rather unveil, love waxes cold then
marriage seem like a life time prison... So I became scared of marriage
like the thought of it should just remain in my head and never
materialize. I had to go through a reorientation with the help of the Bible, I'm
actually still working on it. Nonetheless, marriage is meant to be
beautiful, with an undying love. It's meant to replicate the Marriage of
God and his people, Rev 19:7.
To
have a beautiful marriage, first, I need to be ready mentally,
spiritually, emotionally etc. Even the Bible says in a number of
places "...do not awaken love before it is time".Songs of Songs 2:7;
3:5; 8:4.
Another important thing to do if I want a successful marriage is to have reasons why I want to get married. My reasons include:
- Companionship: I need to marry to have a life time companion. Trust me, even your close friends might not have time to hear all your blabbing but I can say all I want to my spouse and I can gist for Africa eeehn...lol. Gen 2:8 "it is not good for man to be alone"
- Purpose: this is very paramount for me. I need a partner with whom to fulfill purpose, we might not be doing exactly the same thing, but we have to complement each other. Eccl 4:9-12 "two are better than one for they have a good reward for their labor..."
- Intercourse: this is very important as well, sexual intercourse with my husband is something I've waited to have all my life. So when I'm married, I wouldn't take it easy with him...winks. 1 Cor. 7:8- "it is better to marry than to burn with passion"
- Living Harmoniously: I want to be able to practice living peaceably with my husband without major issues so as to give good account to God on that day. It will also prepare me to live in harmony with other brethren in heaven. Rev 19:17 "...for the marriage of the lamb is come and his wife hath made herself ready"
- Replicate heavenly love: I want to marry so I can debunk my observation that marriage is sour. There are so many failed marriages and because I have the desire to help marriages become better, my marriage would have to be a good example for others. Replicating the Love of Jesus. Amen!1 John 3:16 "perceive the love of God because he laid down his life for us..."
- Honour: There's an igbo adage that says "Ugwu wanyi bu di ya" - A woman's honor is her husband. This is so evident in our society as a single woman is seen as promiscuous except she is married. Heb 13:4a. "Marriage is honorable..."
I
could go on and on but the gist is that it's best to have reasons for
marriage before you go into it. It gives you a goal for which you will
strive to achieve. What is your reason...?
DEBORAH
