1st Reason:
My dad used to travel a lot back then because of the nature of his job. I remember sometime ago I was discussing with my dad. He made a statement that struck me and kept ringing in my head. He said the reason he trusted my mum so well, and could vouch for her that she never cheated throughout the time he wasn't around, was because he met her as a virgin and she was very uptight even with him before they got married. He added - all the issues they've had (they've been married for over 35 years) and will have can never be in line with her faithfulness. That statement got me. At that moment I made up my mind to be like her so my husband will trust me this much.
2nd Reason:
At some point my reason was just because I knew my elder sisters were virgins, and the married ones at that time got married as virgins, so I decided that I wasn't going to be the black sheep
3rd reason:
God forbids fornication and blesses those that obey Him.
However with the wealth of knowledge I have gathered over the years on certain aspects of life, I've concluded that "I am not my mother and my husband is not my father" The fact that my father can boast of my mum's faithfulness because she was a virgin does not mean my husband has to trust me for that reason too. So my first reason is not exactly my present and sole reason for remaining a virgin
Secondly, my sisters being virgins should not be my ultimate reason. I should have an understanding for myself of why I am and should remain a virgin
As for my 3rd reason; Yes God forbids fornication and blesses those that obey him. However, purity does not guarantee a successful marriage contrary to what I held unto. It doesn't mean your husband will adore you, doesn't guarantee children, after all some virgins remain barren in marriage while others that people tag 'harlots' have kids when they decide to. Also, getting married as a virgin doesn't automatically make you a Proverbs 31 woman. After all, virginity can be all you have (without character) and who that kin virginity epp?
Finally, my simple reason right now is "Because fornication is a sin against God and MY moral standards forbids it" (note 'my' in capital letters).
But I'd like to say this, virgin or no virgin, you're still a great woman or man (Yes men too!).
Cheers!
B.O.M
