It’s been an amazing week in all aspects
of the word “amazing”. In my head, I felt i was reaching out to singles to encourage them to lay healthy foundations for their married lives. Little did I
know I was going to be ministered to rather heavily.
The plan has always been to reserve Sundays
for me to wrap-up and put a cap to the discussions on the topic of any given
week. For some reasons, I have been unable to. However, with the sensitivity
and far reaching effects of this week’s topic, I knew I had to create time to
wrap up.
The topic for the week was VIRGINITY.
The writers shared with us how they kept or lost their virginity, the struggles
they faced (and are still facing) and the lessons learnt so far. Trust me when i say, they did an awesome job of opening up to the world just to minister to someone. This topic was
not intended to make anyone feel lost and dejected. On the contrary, it was
supposed to minister grace to you, and I am sure it did. The writers were a
mixed multitude and I am sure their stories blessed different people at
different levels of the purity journey. It does not matter how lost you think
you are, grace and forgiveness are always available. And like one of the writers
highlighted; just go and sin no more. And for you who is still a virgin, remember
to never be too confident in yourself and “walk on the edges”, lest you fall.
One major lesson I learnt in the
course of the week is to never ever judge anybody. If you have not lived their
story, you have no right to judge another. There were those who lost their
virginity “carelessly”. Others, rather willingly but oblivious of the consequences.
There is another category who lost their virginity to “thieves”. All they’ve known
is hurt and lack of trust. They end up being lesbians or homosexuals, hating men/women,
or just giving in to sex at any given opportunity. We see these ones and call
them “loose” or “prostitutes” or “wayward”, and then we stigmatize them. But you
weren’t there when someone came and literally ripped virtue from them
without consent and apology, the day innocence was buried, the day they wished a
million and one things including death, the nights when they wake up practically
screaming and drenched in their sweat, the days they dread closing their eyes,
lest they re-live the experience, moments when they had to doubt God’s love for
allowing such happen to them … If you don’t know their story, don’t judge.
If you are in this category, God’s
grace is also available. I have no blanket solution to give you because your
story is peculiar. But one thing is for sure - you need to talk to someone so
that you can begin healing enough to let go of the hurt, forgive your offender
and begin to live the fulfilling life you were created to live. There is so
much “hurt” is not letting you enjoy, there’s so much you can give and NO! it
was not your fault. I will also like to tell you that you have a ministry in
that “misery”. Like these writers of the week, there’s someone out there only
you can reach because only you can relate with what they went or are going
through. If you want to talk, you can get across to me on njokuchiagoziem@gmail.com and I will
connect you to proper counselors who will be willing to walk with you
irrespective of your location… and yes, it will be strictly confidential. If you also have story you want to share that might bless others, kindly get across to me with the terms and conditions...lol😀.
I long for a world where we stop being stereotypes
and start loving people for who they really are. A world that is free of
judgement, criticisms and name calling. A world where people have compassion enough to ask
what the problem really is and proffer solutions in confidence...
I would love to end with this passage - 2 Cor 5:16
16-20 Because of this decision we don’t evaluate people by what
they have or how they look. We looked at the Messiah that way once and got it
all wrong, as you know. We certainly don’t look at him that way anymore. Now we
look inside, and what we see is that anyone united with the Messiah gets a
fresh start, is created new. The old life is gone; a new life burgeons! Look at
it! All this comes from the God who settled the relationship between us and
him, and then called us to settle our relationships with each other. (msg)
Let go of the hurt, forgive yourself
and the offender and let grace wash over you and give you a new start. It might not be easy but it is doable...trust me i know...
Next week's topic is setting standards...See you tomorrow.
Remain blessed.
Cheers!
CHIAGOZIEM ADINDU
