Spending time and gisting with Boo is totally fun no doubt, but doing it with the people who made the fun is more fun (of course not to the exclusion of boo). There are lots of discussions that your hubby might not be able to address; he might not have been a part of your childhood, so when you need to go back to memory lane those persons that were part of it are the best persons to talk to. The husband is the spiritual head, yeah! But there are times you might just need to speak to a pastor or a counsellor, your husband might just be biased. He might be intelligent and successful but might not have an expert opinion on certain matters.
Maintaining relationships with the women in your life is equally important. In the aspect of relationship or marriage most women share similar experiences, feel the same pains, happiness etc. While it is not advisable to go about telling what goes on in your home, there are people who have experienced what you are going through and might be in the best position to tell you what to do or how to go about it. Moreover, there are situations that are peculiar to women that the man might not know about e.g. Pregnancy. I know of a woman who gave birth to her three boys through caesarean section (CS) and was advised by her doctor and other women that it was best for her not to go through it again but her husband kept pestering her to give him a girl. She had to insist that she was not going through that again and if her husband needed a girl, he should go and adopt. Gbam!
Nobody prays for an unfortunate situation but when you have to go through heart break, divorce or widowhood, it is still the women in your life that will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on sometimes even intervening for you. I remember when I had to go through one very emotional draining relationship; the ex-boyfriend of mine did not want me to get over him in a hurry. He kept harassing me with series of calls and threatening text messages, it was my best friend, who literally bought the fight from me and dealt with him accordingly. So it is important not to discard the women in your life simply because you have a man. Maintaining other healthy relationships whilst with your man makes your relationship healthier.
Life is all about balance. Everyone who comes into your life is there for a reason and a season, they each have a role to play and a position to stay, never get it mixed up and try to not to take anyone for granted.
Ms. Okemiri
