WK 6 DAY 2- IT PAYS TO BE ONE

You can imagine that awkward feeling you have when you have to share things on virginity right! So this is me.....

When I started out as a teenager I had the opportunity to explore quite a number of things... honestly, I did really explore things (lips sealed). It is just funny how we want to remain a virgins and at the same time engage in the ‘leading on acts’. But, I was conscious of the fact that I have read and heard people talk about how interesting and fun sex is, and so one could be easily swept away. Trust me I know myself too well, I was and am still sure that I will go all the way when I start that sex journey. So I had to put some commas to the ‘preliminary touching touching’ ...not a full stop, though (Honeymoon things). Moreover, back in high school, it was like most of those that gave themselves to sex were looking less beautiful at some point...(maybe it was my eyes sha), but I didn’t want to fall into that trap, as I was loving my looks and all.

To answer the question...am I a virgin....eehn...YES! am sure of the no sex part but other things I did explore. I was just very naïve and indecisive then, so I did practically all what he told me to. Looking back now, I just wondered why I never walked away...  The guy was part of those that kept that philosophy of sex was a proof of love. But luckily for me, I always got away with the sweet talk of  ‘I was going to give in soon’ after a while it was ‘chill till after my 100 level’. It happened that the procrastination worked fine till we eventually broke up. Mehn...some dirty memories thoh...

I looked so innocent back then but was I really innocent...gist for another day... (my mum still marvels when I tell her now about some of the things I did then)... Back to the gist... So what kept me going? At least I know I was all ‘churchy’ but not so ‘Gody’ then, even though I was brought up as a Christian.  I just remembered how my parents were such disciplinarians....checking my phone, monitoring my movements... I tell you that was not the restricting factor... I will even say you shouldn’t use those tricks with a 21st-century child...ko le work (it can’t work). It was just a personal strong determination aided with the mercy of God. I didn’t want to be ‘an after-one’ that is the term we normally use for a lady that has a child out of wedlock.

So the past is gone, why am I still one, especially  now that I know better ...where there are a lot of contraceptives that I could take to avoid getting pregnant? You guessed right- GOD is the key factor no doubt. Moreover, haven come this far, with just a few months to go, why can’t I exercise some more patience. Honestly, the urges are there but the Holy Spirit has been my helper.

Is it really necessary to remain a virgin? My one time answer to that is IT DOES PAY TO BE ONE. I have even heard of guys who do not want to marry virgins because they feel virgins are naïve.  That’s so far from the truth... am sure somewhere in their minds they will be proud to have one as a wife...no need to use that as an excuse pleases. For me am sure I will learn on the "job". Moreover, I certainly believe it helps the husband to trust the wife better even in marriage. Issues such as child delay after marriage or rumors of extramarital affairs, will be handled better when the husband remembers he was her first.

Finally, I see no reason why we should secretly enjoy in a haste what we will still have forever in marriage (I have a feeling it might be tiring at a point slf).  And of course, Proverbs 6:28 -  you can’t walk on hot coal and not be scourged.

This is a wakeup call to both guys and ladies... guys are not exempted from the virgin call. I mean, what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. I will also like to chip in that for anyone that has lost it, it is not the end of the road you know, even Jesus gave that woman a second chance(John 8:1-11). You can definitely make it right again. On a final note....losing my virginity (which I earnestly await) will be satisfactory and acceptable only when it pleases God and it’s given to the right one.

E-fair