Hi pips, happy new year and month. I have missed you guys. Someone may be wondering if I'm still on the radar, well I still very much am... Sometimes you need to get off the streets, do a retreat so you can give yourself a treat... you that feeling when you need to retire to refire...ok that was for free. Lol.
But really I came into this new year very hot. I was literally spitting fire. I had tons of lessons and discoveries to share, but at this moment I feel redirected...for good.
For some reasons, I have had to suppress the urge to write about singles-related stuff. In my mind I was keeping things in perspective, because the blog was (in my mind too) strictu sensu marriage centered. However, I have had to be reminded time and time again that the success or failure of marriage is often times a product of what we do or fail to do as singles. In other words, your life as a single man/woman is the foundation upon which your marriage is built.
Let's talk about foundations a bit. With a building Engineer in my face 24/7, I practically am an engineer by association. So in the course of my engineering (lol) I have learnt a little about foundations of a building. There are various types of foundations for different kinds of building structures, also taking the varying kinds of soils into consideration. For instance, a duplex will definitely not have the same foundation as a bungalow, and a soil that is water-logged will require more reinforcement than soils that are not.
Another thing about foundations is that they take a lot of time and money. Typically, it is believed that some foundations take up to 33% of the building cost while some take as much as 80%. Ehen, it now makes sense! No wonder some folks that year needed to go and "reinforce" financially after the foundation before continuing the other parts of the house. This is because the foundation is key. When the foundation caves in, it destroys not just the investment on the house, in some cases lives are lost.
This is exactly how it is with a marriage. Nihil aliquid sperare potest stare non edificabis- you can't build something on nothing and expect it to stand...literally. You must have heard that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, well what happens in your singlehood does not stay there. In most cases, it gets amplified. If he is cheating on you now, marriage ain't gonna cure it, it might actually get worse. If she has trust issues now, she might poison you in marriage before she realizes you were innocent...If the foundation be faulty...
So for the next seven (7) weeks or more, by the grace of God, we will be looking at some issues of singles and guess what, I won't be doing it alone. I have a divinely selected team of singles who are willing to share their stories so you don't make the same mistakes...you know what they say: its not a mistake to make a mistake, but it is a mistake to repeat the same mistake.
A single topic will be discussed everyday for 7 days from seven people's point of view because I strongly believe that truth is strong, repetition is stronger but repeating the truth is strongest. So don't miss out on a single day because it's time to correct that faulty foundation and perhaps introduce a retrofit (a reinforcement for faulty foundations).
Remain blessed.
Cheers
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