THE INTRUDER

...So someone was eating the food in the fridge,  groceries were missing, there was excess trash in the bin, but he was sure he lived alone. At some point he thought he was loosing his mind but as it continued, he knew something was wrong, or rather someone was wrong. The search began,  rather frantically with a huge doze of fear, fear of what he'll discover. He searched the entire house (or so he thought)  but to no avail... It continued.  For his sanity and to protect his life he had to leave. .. The thoughts of leaving his once peaceful haven which had now become a hunted yard was disheartening...About to give up, he remembered one more place... Rather unusual... He climbed, the apprehension was back and true to his fears, there he was - the intruder who had pitched his tent in his attic... errmm that's the end of the story nah...hehehe.

 

But really, for a very long time I have always tried to figure out what happens to that happily-ever-after-Cinderella picture painted on wedding days. With all eyes on them, the couple look so glamorous, breathtaking, and enviable. You unconsciously blurt out an "aawwnnn"  or "eya" in admiration... Then something happens... The next time you hear from or about them they are getting a divorce -  trouble in paradise. She complains he cheats, beats and is no longer sweet.  He says she's disrespectful, not beautiful and he's done being hopeful... unknown to them, it's time to check the attic.

 

An intruder is a person who enters a place without invitation or permission. The irony about a marriage intruder is that he is actually invited by either or both of the couples, intentionally or not. And unlike the intruder above who survives on the groceries of his host, a marriage intruder thrives and is sustained by self (selfishness - doing what you want at the expense of the other). I have been doing some study and I think it won't be premature to say that all marriage problems are as a result of selfishness... For instance, no woman or man will get angry because the spouse wants to bless them. Anger is always about a spouse who does and in some cases, keeps doing that "thing" the other detests. I heard the gist of a man who insisted on keeping the contact of his ex, cause they were just friends... Or  the couple that had issues over a huge sum of money... even though the marriage came before all these things.

Q: How important is your Marriage compared to other things?

 

Common intruders include (but are not limited to) the strange women/men,  money, family, friends etc. One common similarity all intruders share is that they are destructive - Some act fast, others are slow but sure.  There's a need to do a regular check on the marriage; search unusual, unsuspecting, attic-like areas. Nothing is worth your peace,  nothing should attack the vows. P.S Your spouse is not the enemy... Every time there is trouble in marriage, something or someone is interfering and surviving on someone's selfishness... It's time to check the attic...

What is intruding?

God bless Marriages!
 

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